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Why You Need to Own Your Errors
Thought for the Week “Admit your mistakes,” is hardly the motto of our current culture. If anything, it’s the opposite. Being exposed for having ever been anything other than what one claims to be can mark the end of a career, or even, tragically, a life. Suicide, which is at an all-time high, is more-often-than-not, […]
Why You Need to Own Your Errors
My thoughts on this post that I like so much I am lending my platform
I have a gift for being teachable. It is ok to correct me. People will say this sort of thing, but they do not mean it. Often, they do not know they do not mean it. “Just tell me if you have a problem with me.” I am a person who believes people mean the words they say and I do not automatically consider other aspects of speech that give meaning, like context, tone, or a person’s history. People got really mad at me when I obediently set about correcting them.
No one got as angry as I did, however. For me, to say I made a mistake was almost a form of rejection. A mistake morphed into I AM wrong, from, I did something wrong. I fought to defend my positions, opinions, and actions with all the determination of someone who does not want to be cast out of the group.
I do not remember how the epiphany came to me. It is said there was only one perfect person. To say I am never wrong is like saying my peer group is me–and Jesus. Such out of control grandiosity was too much for even me–a person full of pride and devoted to image. The idea developed into a further realization that since all people are flawed, making a mistake is not what separates me, but what makes me human. There’s no getting rid of me!
I still care about image. But my concerns are not rooted in thr desire to look or be flawless and beyond questioning. What I want people to see is someone open to correction so I can make yhe necessary changes.
Quote for the week from fellow blogger about the purpose of life. Follow attached link:
Overcoming fear of Driving in Hawaii–of course I can sell real estate!
I spent 20 years on the bus. I never imagined I would drive. It was not even a goal. But after having to turn down yet another job, it occurred to me that what seemed impossible might be an illusion. Now look:
The things that can happen are bigger than I can conceptualize. Bigger than being a real estate mogul? Of course! How so? I don’t know! That’s the beauty of this type of dream deferred! It doesn’t wither but grows without bounds!
Hawaii: no law regulating compassionate release for dying inmates. Linked article
People argue that dying inmates should have the chance to be released. Some say it costs the state too much to care for terminally ill inmates. My guess is, if these people are released, they won’t have any resources, so it is likely the state will still foot the bill for care, minus the cost of guards, etc.
Some say it will be nice for families to have their loved one back before the end. Maybe so, maybe not. Perhaps families will be burdened with a relative with whom they have had no meaningful connection. The situations vary case by case, obviously.
For me, it comes down to the crime. Society has never feared terminally ill, bed-bound people. Recidivism, or the impossibility of reoffending is not the issue. People who have committed heinous acts were meant to die in prison, away from family. That would be the point of, say, a 150-year sentence. Too many people are imprisoned for foolishness.
I am all for compassion, unless the sentence was imposed for the express purpose of not extending any.
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